1930
hrs
I
stood on an extended balcony of a friend’s residence 24 floors up on a high
rise building with only a 3 foot extension in front of me and a world hustling
chaotically several feet below. Through the ravages of my mind I recalled the
newspaper article I had recently read of a young girl who crossed over a
similar extension on a high rise building eventually ending her existence once
and for all. As I observed the sheer drop from where I stood the blood in my
veins turned cold. I was appalled with the very thought of what could it possibly take any human being to just walk off a ledge into committing suicide
in this manner. In fact, I was even more dismayed trying to understand why
people would want to end their lives in whatever form they adopted, be it a
sheer drop from a tall building, a noose hanging from a fan, slitting their
wrist or even consuming pesticides. And as I watched the road far below I figured
that committing suicide must require humongous amounts of courage! After all,
if it wasn’t courage, what else can it possibly take?
That’s
what I assumed till I decided to reach out to several suicide survivors. Being
an active Life Counselor all I had to do was to speak to most of my
‘patients’ and through them connect with those who made that one last attempt
but survived. And believe it or not, the ensuing journey was an education of a
lifetime!
The
Mind is a very powerful connect between the Soul and the Body and can be likened
to fire which can cook your food and cook you too! Within the precincts of the
Mind exists three minds: the Conscious, the Subconscious and the Unconscious
Minds. The Conscious Mind consists abysmally 5% of the entire Human Mind. The rest
95% constitutes the Subconscious and the Unconscious Minds. The Subconscious
Mind holds memories which are recent in nature while the Unconscious Mind records
every moment of one’s experiences of life. It is an amazing storehouse of memories
from the day we were born!
In
a nutshell, the Conscious Mind converses with the outside world and the inner
self through speech, pictures, writing, physical movement, and thought. The
Subconscious Mind, on the other hand, is in continuous contact with the
resources of the Unconscious Mind which constantly communicates with the Conscious
Mind through the Subconscious Mind. It provides one with the meaning to all
interactions with the world, as filtered through ones beliefs and habits. It
communicates through feelings, emotions, imagination, sensations, and dreams.
Hence the Subconscious and the Unconscious Minds play a very active role in
tandem with the Conscious Mind to ensure an overall healthy and productive
Mindset resulting in a remarkable existence of one self.
However,
when the Conscious Mind begins to get excessively and relentlessly barraged with
piercingly stressful thoughts and experiences, the Subconscious and Unconscious
Minds strain to maintain the stability of the Conscious Mind. And as the
Conscious mind ceaselessly becomes more and more turgid, it quite suddenly breaks
away from the safe anchorages of the Subconscious and Unconscious Minds
resulting in, what we call, the act of suicide. And this could happen at any
given point of time: while walking on the road, working at the office, reading
a book at home, working out at the gym or even watching an exciting IPL Cricket
final!
For
all of those who are presently harboring suicidal tendencies I can only advice:
1. Stay within the Powers of your Inner Being. There is
enormous Greatness within you! Feel it, embrace it and believe in it!!
2. You can’t get out of life alive. So why prepone
it? Life is a many splendored thing. Enjoy the meandering journey and don’t
mentally resist when things don’t look too good. It won’t last forever! Never does!!
3. Spend time deep breathing and meditating. Stay in the 'NOW'. You don't live in the past anymore. And the future can become awe-inspiring if you concentrate on creating beautiful Masterpieces with the present moment! Appreciate yourself for who you are and not in comparison with anyone else. You
are YOU! The final Creator of your own Destiny! There never is a need to be
anyone else when you can be fabulously YOURSELF!
4. And finally, Celebrate Life…Celebrate being YOU!
And
to all of those of you who are connected with someone struggling with suicidal tendencies:
1. Please avoid interacting if you can’t help or
remotely understand how precarious the person’s Mind is at the moment.
2. Stop mirroring your personal stress and frustrations
through your actions and words. It will have a deliberating effect and deteriorate
the mental crises.
3. Be patient, loving and caring no matter how
stressful the situation or relationship gets. It remotely compares to what’s
actually happening in the person’s Mind!
4. And finally, you have to realize one burning truth:
IT DOES NOT TAKE COURAGE BUT JUST A SNAP TO OBLIVION!!
Anand
K Nair
Leadership & Motivational
Speaker. Mentor. Counselor. Author. Business Consultant.
Founder,
Anand
Nair Leadership Foundation
Email:
anand@agnileadership.com
www.facebook.com/anandnairleadershipfoundation
Author
of: The Sledgehammer's Edge
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